When I was a little girl, people used to tell me all the time, “You’re so gullible!” Apparently I was easily fooled. I don’t think it lasted long. Growing up in a family with a long history of chemical dependency, I learned early to sift the shit from the truth. People who have addictive personalities tend to be awesome bullshitters. I am co-dependent, I learned to cover up or manage other people’s lies.
I am, however one of the most honest people you will ever meet. When you meet me, what you see is what you get. I may be reserved at first, but you I will never (or at least very rarely) lie to you. I have been said to be “brutally honest”. If you ask me my opinion, I will give it to you. And I won’t sugar coat it.
Today I was at the gym and I was zoning out to some Hinder while on the treadmill. I like Hinder because they just come out and say it. Sometimes it’s in your face, but it feels like the truth. There is a line in one of the songs that says, “I can tell you’re lying when your lips move…” Some people are like that, I think. They just lie because it’s all they know until they don’t even know they are lying anymore. It’s just bullshit on top of more bullshit.
There are some bloggers like that. I have been to blogs where I just think, “This person is so full of shit.” And I don’t get it. Why put that shit out there? Why not just write your fiction and call it that. It’d be more entertaining and easier to read if I wasn’t just sitting their thinking about how full of shit the writer was. I’m not talking about people whose shtick is bullshit (y’know, like Fab) because his is written as such and it’s humorous and people get that he is trying to be funny and usually not telling a true story. I’m talking about people who tell their sad, phony story on the Internet. What’s the point?
I have a couple friends (in addition to family) who are supreme bullshitters/liars. That’s not to say that they lie all the time. I usually can tell when they are lying to me. Of course it hurts that they aren’t completely honest with me. But, I love them with my whole heart, so I look past their insecurities. Because, don’t you think that is what it is? I think it is because if they thought I saw the real them, I would run away. I wish that they could see that I do see the real them and I love them, not in spite of, but because I see who they really are.
That is a really interesting post, and so very true. I try not to read those people because I just want to scream at them, lol. I’m like you, I’m very honest – almost to my downfall actually, but I feel it is better to be honest then to sugar coat something that someone needs to know.
Oh, geez. I must be really gullible, because I haven’t happened upon any blogs that I doubted! I wonder how many fakies I’m reading every day. You, for example! Tell the truth, Shelli! You’re not really a nurse from the suburbs who tells it like it is, are you? You’re that skinny fan-stealing Barbie gym bitch, aren’t you?!?!
Wow. Great post.
We need more honest people. And I need to buy a “Bullshit Detector 2.0″.
There was a lot of cursing in this post. It made me uncomfortable.
I thought about making up a new fictitious personna on the ‘net, but then I thought about how hard that would be to keep up. just until the money starts rolling in, I tell myself. and then I remember, what money?!
I agree with the lieing poster issue. WTF? the internet gives us such annoniminty that we should be able to tell the truth, and yet so many people use it to lie about their lives!
Where are these blogs? I wanna read ‘em.
Lying and fakeness are two things I hate. I can not tolerate either one for very long. I guess, you could say I have a tendency of being brutally honest as well… probably stems from the same reason you stated: other people’s chemical dependence. I am way more co-dependent than I am comfortable with–but I know it and am working on it.
Thank you for the lovely post!!!!
I’m “what you see is what you get” too which is why I sometimes just can’t write anything. I like to keep my blog upbeat, and when times are bad, I can’t hide it in my writing. Try not to take your families lies personal, Shelli, they’ve established a pattern they just can’t break.
Oh, drat! Now I have to stop reading Fab-cuz I can only handle the truth, ya know…;)
What’s really interesting is knowing the truth….let’s say a person has a “blog persona” and a “real life persona” and you know them both. Sitting by and watching the BS Blogging takes its toll, seriously.
Although, I sometimes read people just like you do and think…seriously? Are we that dumb?
People always think I’m full of shit – that never ceases to amaze me.
There are a few out there that make you wonder.
I really don’t understand people who lie like that. I know there are people who like to tell tall tales, but I’m not good at figuring it out until someone points it out to me. I am honest and upfront and open–I don’t tell lies in other words. I either keep my mouth shut or tell the truth and I just assume everyone else is the same. I shouldn’t but I always have.
I’m with you, Shelli. I don’t understand the point of writing if you have to lie. I mean, isn’t the whole point of your blog to vent about life, celebrate your life, etc.? It’s kind of like cheating at a game and knowing you didn’t really win. It takes all the fun out of it.
Anyway, I LOVE that you’re so honest. And so kind. Never change!
That’s why I like you – because you’re brutally honest. With the internet, people can confirm the truths.
interesting thoughts… but the thing about blogs… they’re all used differently… and the ones I think are utter bullshit, are still entertaining (maybe they’re just not done as well as avi & fab!)… so it’s possible they’re written for that exact reason… does that make sense…
I dont have the imagination to lie in my blog. LOL maybe thats why I get so few comments? Meh. I hate a liar worse than anything. I can forgive my family and close friends that are like my family but no one else. You lie to me and you are dead to me. Seriously. Maybe this is why I have so few friends?
I like cheese.
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I’d like to think of myself as a pretty honest person but I can bullshit with the best of them when the time calls for it.
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I have been known to tell a story with a totally straight face and make you believe that I have the data to back me up.All the while it’s bullshit. But I only do that for shits and giggles and I finally say “I can’t believe you just bought into that load!!”
For the most part I do consider myself to be ‘brutally honest’ and I expect others to be the same with me.
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Nothing more to add. I just wanted to type ‘cojones’ as my A-S word!! :d
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I’m dying of curiosity to know what blogs you’re referring to!
Oh, and I totally agree with Fab: Cheese is amazing.
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