This is going to sound freaking psychotic, but it comes from me, so what do you expect? I often think about people in my life and what I would say about them at their funeral. It kind of helps me put into perspective the things that aren’t worth remembering about them and emphasizes their best qualities that I will likely remember them for once they are gone. I suppose this started after my Dad died, after I had written and given his eulogy and I realized that often we look at those people who have passed with rose colored glasses. Don’t get me wrong, that’s how it should be for the most part.
There are people in my life who have hurt me immensely and still continue to do so. It is usually those people that I am often writing their eulogies in my head when my brain is otherwise unoccupied. I want to search for the good in them. I want to make the good in them be more important than the wrongs that they have done me. It’s hard sometimes. But it’s probably something that I will continue to do my entire life.
It did get me wondering though, what would my loved ones say if they had to stand up at my funeral and say a few nice things? I know what I would like them to see in me and I hope that along with my faults, they will see my strengths, that they will block out the faults once I am no longer here to hurt them anymore.
What Will They Say by Me
What will they say when I am finally gone
When my spirit has left this earth
Will they look past my faults and all I did wrong
To finally see all that I was worth?When my life has ended and my soul has moved on
To join in heaven all my family and friends
Will they look back at my life and who I was
And will my personality finally be cleansed?Will they say nice things and smile and laugh
Will they share many knowing grins?
Will they remember my life, laughter and pain
Will they gladly forget all my sins?As my family and friends are gathered around
And they think of me (hopefully) above
Will they say she laughed, she cared, she thought
But most of all she loved, yes most of all she loved
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You still have today and tomorrow to get your gift to me for my birthday week. I am looking forward to writing posts about all of the virtual gifts that I get from you all and linking you up. If you have more than one blog and you care which one I link, will you please tell me in the emailed gift that you send me? Also, please put “birthday gift” in the subject line. Thank you all.
I absolutely love your poem!
i loved that poem. probably becuase i often lay awake at night picturing my own funeral. how will tehy tell the kids, what will tehy say up in front of everyone. what will tehy say behind my husbands back about me…
so, if you are psychotic, I am too!
Maybe I an psychotic, because I don’t even want a funeral. You probably won’t even know I’m gone till I’m cremated.
When I die, I’m having my ashes sprinkled over you-know-who. Assuming he’s still alive.
Lovely poem. And trust me, as long as there is breath in my body you will be remembered as the fabulous, wondrous creature you are. xoxoxo
Absolutely beautiful. It made me a little teary!
I don’t remember where I heard this, but it fits…
Figure out what you would like people to say about you at your funeral and then live your life in such a way as to make it come out like you imagined.
It sounds like you are already doing that. o:-)
(I just love that happy angel icon!)
Wonderful poem… I have my funeral service all planned – music, everything. K has a copy & can tweak it at her will. When my brother was killed my parents were so worried about “would he want this? or this?”, so I took the guessing out.
Wander–Thank you. I was afraid that it sounded stupid.
Blue–Yep! Sounds like stuff I do.
Fab–You can still have a funeral if you are cremated. My Dad was cremated. The funeral isn’t for the deceased, it’s for those who are left behind. It is part of the grieving process…the closure.
Finn–Thank you, dear. I am sure my husband says the same.
mm–Thanks. I think. lol
Peggy–I hope so. I don’t always think I succeed, but I hope they will remember the good me.
Tug–I have actually thought of doing that. I just might now.
Shelli..it is your 40th birthday and unless I have missed something although I am sure you will have black stuff there…I don’t think it is your funeral. but I am new to this site so please correct me if I am wrong..osh shit..am I wrong…did I miss something…oh where is Gumby and Mr. Pokey when I need them…:”>
great now I get the “alive” anti spam word..(where is my emabarr:”> smiley above?
TrishK–I thought about that as I was writing the post. That people might get the wrong idea. I don’t think I am getting ready to die, I am just contemplating the legacy that I will leave. At least I hope I am not getting ready to die. They say that some people know that it is going to happen and they say or do things that prepare their loved ones. I hope that’s not what this post nor the one of a few days ago are about. Now I am going to constantly be looking for the Grim Reaper over my shoulder.
Are you thinking of your Dad a lot lately?